Does your partner, ex-partner or someone you live with:
- cut you off from family and friends and intentionally isolate you?
- bully, threaten, or control you?
- take control of your finances?
- monitor or limit your use of technology?
- physically and/or sexually abuse you?
Domestic abuse is not always physical violence. It can also include:
- coercive control and ‘gaslighting’
- economic abuse
- online abuse
- threats and intimidation
- emotional abuse
- sexual abuse
Anyone can be a victim of domestic abuse, regardless of gender, age, ethnicity, religion, socio-economic status, sexuality or background.
If you believe that you are a victim of domestic abuse, there are signs that you can look out for including:
- being withdrawn, or being isolated from your family and friends
- having bruises, burns or bite marks on you
- having your finances controlled, or not being given enough to buy food, medication or pay bills
- not being allowed to leave your house, or stopped from going to college or work
- having your internet or social media use monitored, or someone else reading your texts, emails or letters
- being repeatedly belittled, put down or told you are worthless
- being pressured into sex or sexual contact
- being told that abuse is your fault, or that you’re overreacting
All forms of domestic abuse are not acceptable in any situation.
Domestic abuse has a major impact upon the health, well-being and education of children and young people. If you’re experiencing domestic abuse and feel frightened of, or controlled by, a partner, an ex-partner or family member, it’s important to remember that it’s not your fault and there is no shame in seeking help.
Services that can support you:
Birmingham & Solihull Women’s Aid
Birmingham & Solihull Women’s Aid can be contacted on 0808 800 0028 or www.bswaid.org
Rights of Women Legal Advice Line
Free confidential legal advice on family law, divorce and relationship breakdown, children and contact issues, domestic violence, sexual violence, discrimination and lesbian parenting can be sought by calling 02072516577 or you can visit www.rightsofwomen.org.uk
National Domestic Abuse Helpline
The 24 hour fee helpline can be accessed by calling 0808 2000 247 or you can visit www.womensaid.org.uk/
M.A.L.E: Men's Advice Line & Enquiries
A confidential helpline for male victims of domestic abuse can be accessed by calling 0808 8010327
or you can visit www.mensadviceline.org.uk